Short Hair Talk

I was browsing the blogs I follow, one of which is Chubby Bunnies. I love how so many woman of different sizes post their pictures, nude or dressed, for the world to see. A few days ago I was one the site and I saw a comment from someone asking about getting a pixie hair cut and how she is having trouble finding pictures of larger women with short hair. I quickly went to her Tumblr page and posetd a comment, telling her of my recent hair cut. When I read her comment about having trouble finding pictures I remember my search to find pictures of larger women with short hair. Let me tell you, it involves a lot of digging. Doing a simple Google search doesn't work.

I remember searching like crazy for pictures, trying to find personal accounts, anything! There were a few but what I did come across was a lot of people saying NO! No, you're fat you can't get short hair! It makes you look bigger!! Uhh whether my hair is short or long I'm fucking big. I was annoyed that even larger women would say No don't get short hair! Ultimately I decided to just go for it and cut my hair short. I still look for larger people with short hair and when I find a picture I bookmark it. I found that going through fat aceptance and plus size fashion blogs to be a great source for finding pictures of larger people with short hair.

I do not understand why larger people are told to not get short hair. Now, there are people, whether skinny or fat, who do not look good with short hair (maybe i'm on of them!) but what's wrong with trying it out? A person never knows what will look good on them unless they take the chance and try it. I'm glad my hairdresser didn't pull the "O no, you shouldn't have short hair because it will make your face fatter" speech. He went right in there and cut my hair! He said it will be a shock to me and that I may spend a few days doing double takes but he never once said "no you can't do this". If you come across a hairdresser that says no when you want to get your hair cut short, go somewhere else. There are many, many different short hairstyles, it's just a matter of finding one you like!

I hope that person who posted the question does decide to get her hair cut, I don't know what she looks like but I'm sure it will look great. There needs to be more pictures floating around of larger women with short hair, so I'm posting more pictures!!

Deal with it people

You know I hate how some people feel the need to "educate" me on my body. Like I have absolutely no fucking clue what kind of body I have. I mean I don't do my hair in the morning, or my makeup. I get dressed in the dark! Really people? I know what I look like. I mean how do you think I get the clothes I own? Just grab whatever and poof it fits?

I can get into clothes that range from a size 20 to a 26 and a medium to a 3x. I haven't gone onto a scale in a long time because I fucking hate it. It controls so many peoples lives. I do have an idea of what I weigh.

I really do not need people telling me how to work out, what to eat...WHAT I should weigh. The best thing I keep hearing is that "When the husband dies wives lose a lot of weight". So I guess I should get rid of Marc, and then everything will be great. I also get the "You can't be healthy" Well I have to go to the doctors often because of my thyroid and I get checked up and so far the only issue I have is my hypothyroidism. I probably have a lot of stress though...and let me tell you, a glass of wine can help with that :)

I have to say though, that I have yet to get any grief from a complete stranger (at least to my face), the grief I get comes from family. You could say "They only say these things to you cause they care" really? So, when the same exact thing comes from a stranger they are just assholes? Just because family says it doesn't mean they mean well. If they meant well they would bug off. They would stop putting me on diets, they would stop with the pity, stop with the constant work out tips they hear on the view or from some 10 minute beef up DVD. They would stop comparing me to others who lost weight. News flash people: We don't all lose weight the same!

What hurts me the most is that comment "wives lose a lot of weight once their husbands die". It was said to me, and I got asked about my mothers weight. This came from someone I care about a lot, someone I truly love (no not Marc). I think people need to get over this fascination with weight. Why can't I be happy in the body I have now? Sure, I am working on losing some weight but no it's not so I can fit it that size 6 skinny jean. In fact the size I am aiming towards is around an 18ish. If I can't accept the body I have now, if I can't smile and love every roll I have when I stand naked in the mirror, how will I ever love my size 18 body?

My husband loves me. He loves my body. Maybe other people I care about can start loving me for who I am now. Telling me about this new diet will not make me a happy person. I guess I can just start giving them diet information when they tell me about a diet. See how they feel.